Just When You Thought You Knew Everything.....WABAAM: 2010

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Dec. 6, 2009 – 12:26am

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Dec. 13, 2009 – 10:39pm

So, it seems that OkCupid decided to inform me that we may find one another acceptable. I'll definitely admit to coming back to your profile a number of times, as I'm sure you noticed. You seem like a genuine, intriguing, and attractive woman. There's actual substance to your profile, not something that's too common on this site.

At the very least, I just wanted to follow up after OkCupid broke the ice.

Take care,

-- Ron

Dec. 13, 2009 – 11:03pm

Hello, Ron. I'm Sarahann. I cannot lie. I too have visitted your profile many a time. You are very kind and I hope to get to know you better. Keep in contact (that is if you would like to.)

s*

Dec. 14, 2009 – 10:22pm

Well Sarahann, I definitely would like to keep in contact.

You have a very unique set of professional goals, and you seem very well on your way to achieving them. You're already working towards your doctorate, and that's impressive; most people can't decide on a major let alone set their sights on the highest academia has to offer. So what drew you towards that specific focus and field of study?

Dec. 14, 2009 – 10:28pm

My brother, actually. Before we (my family) found out he had autism I wanted to persue acting; it was my one true love in life. Then after having found out I did as much research as I could and began volunteering at schools in special needs programs. It then became a passion. God works in mysterious ways. I will admit, I was angry with him for creating my brother the way he did. But now, I can see why God did. I can now help others like my brother. *sigh* Anyways, (that was a very long explanation).

Ron, I'm glad you want to continue talking. You and I have much in common. Talk to you soon.

s*

Dec. 14, 2009 – 10:31pm

P.S. - I can't tell you how happy it makes me that you like zombie films. =)

Dec. 16, 2009 – 12:51pm

I have to say, that speaks volumes to your character. It's one thing to have the courage to pursue what you're passionate about for a career, but you've taken something that you have skill in and turned it into a solution for a problem; there aren't many people left these days who value selflessness.

God definitely does work in mysterious ways, there are many things that happen that we can't fully understand without hindsight. For myself, my father died of a heart attack when I was two years old. It took me a while to understand, but I now realize that it was to turn me into a very independent minded person. It also pushed me to look back at my ancestors and understand where I came from through third party sources. It's given me a different perspective on life, and I think that works in my favor in many ways.

We do seem to have quite a bit in common, zombie movies included. I think I enjoy zombie movies for a few reasons. For one, they deal with how humanity would respond to a crisis that eliminates society as we know it and forces everyone to adapt. On the other hand, they can be quite amusing in some aspects. Shaun of the Dead is definitely one of my favorites.

It's definitely good to hear from you, take care.

Dec. 26, 2009 – 10:50pm

Hello Ron!

Happy/Merry (late) Christmas! Tell me, what are your passions in life?

Dec. 27, 2009 – 3:42pm

Merry Christmas to you as well; I hope you had an enjoyable one.

I'd say that I'm passionate about a few key things that drive everything else about me. I want to live a life that my ancestors can watch down on from the afterlife and have some sense of pride in my actions. From that, I get my motivation to improve myself, take the harder right over the easy wrong, and help those around me. That's a fairly abstract answer, but it's the foundation for everything I do.

More specifically, I'm in the Army to make a difference and I genuinely believe in the American cause as a force for good, I firmly believe in God and my beliefs generally can be categorized as Lutheran, and I do what I can to reinforce the good side of those around me while trying to steer them away from their vices. I'm sure each of those bullet points could take up a 10,000 character email, but I can always elaborate later.

Dec. 28, 2009 – 5:54pm

Oh, yes, I had a wonderful Christmas. Lots of family and food and laughter. It was amazing. Thank you. =)

It seems you really know what you want out of life. That's a good quality to have. A gift in fact. Not many people know what they want or what the are truly passionate about.

So, tell me Ron, what is a good guy like you doing on a site like this?

Dec. 28, 2009 – 7:18pm

That's definitely good to hear, Christmas is about the only time I get to spend with family, so I take full advantage of that.

This may sound corny, but I really didn't figure out what I wanted out of life till I opened my eyes to the path God wanted me to take. I knew what I was good at and what I enjoyed, but I couldn't find a way to apply that to a career. As soon as I stopped thinking about what was better for me and focused on where I could help others with those talents, everything started falling into place. God does present various paths for you to take, you just have to walk them.

I had made an account shortly before I deployed, but didn't really use it till about half-way through that deployment. I had been out of a previous relationship for a while, and thought this might be the best way to test the waters. The other reason is that I tend to suck at picking out someone that I might be compatible with over the long run; this format is a good opportunity to bring out any points that may conflict.

Dec. 28, 2009 – 10:21pm

That's good you got to spend time with them. =)

Its not corny. I completely agree with you. I knew not what my passions were until about 3 years ago. Though I' stray every now and then I have found that God still places what I need in front of me. Sometimes, its slightly buried.

Fair enough. I didn't want to join....but I don't know. I did and thats about it. I'm glad I did though. Has it worked out for you thus far?

Jan. 1, 2010 – 3:49pm

Happy New Year! God bless!!!

Jan. 1, 2010 – 3:55pm

Really, it's just a matter of opening your eyes I think. It never feels like a gradual understanding of your purpose either, it's always an epiphany. Something just clicks and I feel like I know what I need to do. You just have to meet some benchmark that's been placed in your life, and it's almost like you're rewarded for doing so. Philosophy's a complicated thing, hah.

I was the same way, I just figured it couldn't hurt to try this out. I've had a number of conversations on here, some felt like an actual conversation and others felt like a job interview or an interrogation. Nothing's really come to fruition from anything on here, but I just got back a few weeks ago. You're one of the few that I feel like I can have a real conversation with, I will say that.

Jan. 1, 2010 – 3:57pm

Good timing, happy new year to you as well. Mine was a very quiet one involving a chicken breast and vegetable dinner with a single beer, hah. I'm a boring guy when it comes to that.

Jan. 1, 2010 – 4:08pm

I'm flattered. I do enjoy our conversation(s) on here. You are one of 3 I talk to on here. (Not that you need to know that, but i feel that I must be honest with you if we are to continue. We can't build anything kind of friendship/relationship if there is no trust/honesty.) Do you think you'll find the one or someone close to it?

Thank you!! I had a marvolous new year. I performed at First Night. That was pretty much the extent of my night. lol. But, it was wonderful anyway. =)

Jan. 2, 2010 – 2:42pm

I'm in the same boat, you are one of the three for me as well. I agree, honesty and trust are the key to any kind of lasting friendship/relationship; I appreciate the fact that you're very upfront, it's refreshing.

I'm an optimistic person, so I like to think that I'll find the one. I'm not trying to rush into anything, but the Army doesn't make that easy. I don't get to have the long courting periods that are afforded to civilians, so I end up having to go the all or nothing route and make a leap of faith on occasion. In any case, the one is who I'm looking for, I've never really been looking for a short term relationship.

I'm glad you enjoyed your New Years, I'm sure performing was a lot of fun.

Jan. 3, 2010 – 9:29am

Good to know. And I'm glad you agree. I'm usually very upfront with people, especially guys. I make sure they know exactly what they are getting into when they persue me. (i.e. no sex, absolutely no smoking (I won't put up with it), my outgoingness (is that even a word?), etc.) It makes for much less hurt later on down the road.

I understand where you're coming from. I can only imagine how hard that would be. I suppose it was a dumb question to ask. Of course you're looking for the one. Who isn't? I never date someone unless I could potentially marry. I don't believe in dating someone just because or to see what they are like in a relationship or for the sex. There has to be something there that could potentially grow much greater. Otherwise, it just seems meaningless. So, what I'm saying is that it was a dumb question to ask. lol.

Yeah, it was! It was amazingly fun. Performing is one of my favorite things in the whole world. Though I will admit I think I would have enjoyed something simple like what you did.

Jan. 3, 2010 – 4:36pm

I try to do the same thing myself, I have several attributes that tend to be deal breakers, especially in this state. I'm an unabashed conservative who fully believes in the U.S. Constitution and fights for it, I'm a geek and have been one for quite some time, and while it may be a bit of a surprise, I also practice abstinence.

That last point tends to come up a little later in the conversation since it's not quite as big of a deal for women. I've found that women are much more accepting of that fact. I still practice it at 26, and I won't lie and say there hasn't been temptation, but I've manged to remind myself every time that I made a vow to myself and God. Part of the reason I made that decision, was that some of my fellow students in grade school were getting pregnant very early in life. I looked at that example and thought it was horribly unfair for the child, and so I vowed to wait until I knew I could properly raise and support that child and the mother. I will wait until I get married and only be with that woman for the rest of my life.

That really isn't a dumb question, you have to know what someone's motivation really is. Some people really are still in that "live life to the fullest" mindset and live like there's no tomorrow and no consequences. They're more concerned with going to the bar on the weekend than trying to do some good with their life. You'd think that everyone is out there looking for "the one", but they're so blinded by Mr. or Ms. right now, that they let Mr. or Ms. right slip away.

You do need a bit of both, the quiet nights in and the active nights out. Everything's about finding that right balance between the two.

Jan. 3, 2010 – 6:51pm

I think that's good though. You fight for what you believe in. Why would anyone be appalled by that? I too am a geek, but more a theatre geek. I don't believe in abortion. I do not believe in divorce. And I too practice abstinence. Unfortunately, its not as accepted by guys as it is by girls. Most guys want in your pants before they even consider furthering relationship....I have been tempted. I will admit that to you. I didn't, of course, but for a bit I thought I would. I'm glad I didn't. It would have ruined me spiritually.

I really would like to finish school before I got married. But, not too many guys want to wait to have sex with a girl for that long so they just pass me bye. I suppose its good though, it weeds out the ones that aren't worthy(? not the right word....but lets go with it). I respect myself too much. Plus, I want a man who can support me. A man who has a job, knows what he wants out of life and has his life in order. I can't be the one placing it in order for him.

I suppose you're right....again, I will admit something else, I too want to live life to the fullest, but in a different sense. I look at it as God has given me another day to live. It is a gift. I should live out my life to the fullest as God would want me to.

I agree. A healthy balance of the simple nights in and the entertaining nights out is very important.

Jan. 4, 2010 – 5:43pm

It's good, and a lot of people do respect the fact that I fight for it, but they simply disagree with my viewpoints on many topics, and that is not a good foundation for any relationship. I can say that we seem to share many stances on the issues, those three included.

It's only natural to be tempted, we are humans after all. It isn't an easy vow to make or maintain, in many ways.

I think you have the right mindset about the relationship you want, both partners have to be stable. I've always felt that if you cheapen a relationship right from the start with sex, that becomes the defining factor in that relationship; that's all you have. If you spend the time to really get to know one another and make a commitment, that becomes the defining factor; a true intimate connection and understanding is your foundation.

You're correct in using the word worthy, because they aren't worthy. If they're so transfixed on sex, they miss the opportunity for a real relationship; it's like not seeing the forest for the trees. There's absolutely nothing wrong with having high standards, that's how you find the one.

Yet again, you've taken the words right out of my mouth; that is my definition of living life to a purpose. It involves finding your purpose and doing everything you can to fulfill it.

I try to live by an old quote from Aristotle, "All things in moderation".

Jan. 7, 2010 – 9:08pm

Yes, but I think the main thing is to accept/respect what your special someone thinks rather than have the same beliefs. I think that in a relationship you need to have things that differ. It creates for much fun. And, yes, we do share alot of the same views.

No, it's not. But somehow or another many of us do maintain our purity. =)

Yes, I don't want to rush into a relationship. I want to be stable and for him to be stable. Yeah...I'm glad you agree.

I suppose you're right. "Worthy" just seemed to be such a strong word.

Again, you and I have much in common. =)

I hope you are well. Have a wonderful day!!!

Jan. 11, 2010 – 7:43pm

That's very true, you look for someone that compliments you. You find someone that can reinforce your strong points, and compensate for your weak points. A relationship really is a partnership in many ways.

Things are definitely made more interesting when there's some minor conflict. Being able to poke fun at one another in a joking manner keeps you both humble in a way. It all prevents you from taking yourself too seriously, and gives you a better appreciation of the other.

I'm finally getting settled back into a normal work schedule, which is sort of a good thing, hah.

Jan. 12, 2010 – 7:17pm

Exactly! I couldn't have worded it any better.

I have to admit to you that I prefer when a guy challenges my thinking. Where I have to be on my toes at all times because I'm not sure when I need to be ready to be witty right back at him. For some reason I find this fun and attractive. (Don't ask me why, I myself cannot explain it.)

I'm glad things are working out for you. School for me just started last monday. Classes aren't too bad. I've got music back in my life. My friends are keeping me sane. Life is good. =)

Jan. 17, 2010 – 6:21am

I know what you mean, and I've always enjoyed having my beliefs challenged. At least if I'm wrong, I know I'm wrong; if I'm right, then I know to stand behind that belief with full conviction. I know where I stand.

There's a quote from Thomas Jefferson that Glenn Beck always brings up on his show:

"Your reason is now mature enough to examine this object [religion]. In the first place divest yourself of all bias in favour of novelty & singularity of opinion. Indulge them in any other subject rather than that of religion. It is too important, & the consequences of error may be too serious. On the other hand shake off all the fears & servile prejudices under which weak minds are servilely crouched. Fix reason firmly in her seat, and call to her tribunal every fact, every opinion. Question with boldness even the existence of a god; because, if there be one, he must more approve the homage of reason, than that of blindfolded fear."

I did a great deal of challenging my beliefs while I was in Iraq, not religiously, but politically. I stopped towing the party lines, and began to truly rediscover what our country stands for and just what I swore an oath to support and defend. I stopped blindly following, and now I truly love what I do and stand for what I believe.

It seems like you've been able to find what you're willing to stand for a little earlier than I have, and that's commendable. With someone there to challenge you, you only become more conscious of yourself.

Anyways, now that I'm done with my history nerd rambling, I hope everything's going well for you.

-- Ron

Jan. 17, 2010 – 11:41am

Ron-

Wonderful quote. I absolutely love Jefferson. I think I really like him because its thought that he had high-functioning autism.

I think it was people challenging me that helped me grow into my personality. lol. =)

I like your ramblings. I could listen to them all day. As for me, I'm sick at the moment; a cold or something. But other than that I am well. School and work are keeping my busy.

How are you my dear? What is new in life? How is life treating you?

I'll talk to you soon, my dear.

s*

Jan. 18, 2010 – 3:43pm

I had never heard of that theory on Jefferson, and I immediately Googled it. That's definitely a good example of having someone to open your mind up a little bit, so thank you.

I can admit that I've always been a little strange compared to others. The fact that I've had such resistance to my personality type, has only reinforced it. I suppose I can thank my stubborn German and Finnish heritage for that one, hah.

Well you would be one of the few. I tend to lose people by going off on tangents which turn into full blown rants. I suppose people do get the chance to learn something from my rants though, so they can't be all that bad.

We have another thing in common at the moment, we both have a cold. Mine's only minor, but we've been doing a lot of running and moving stuff out in the rain over the past week. Hopefully you get over yours quickly.

I can say that life is going well aside from the moments of boredom here and there. I've had an opportunity present itself to try out for a special forces unit later this year, so that's the big deal for me right now.

Again, I hope you feel better soon. There's nothing worse than a cold sapping your energy.

Take care,

-- Ron

Jan. 18, 2010 – 8:16pm

You're welcome? I guess I forget that not everyone knows these weird facts about historical figures and autism. I'll be sure to explain such things in the future. =)

I too am a stubborn German. But my gentle/blonde side comes from my Polish heritage. Put them together and you get...well....me I suppose. Stubborn and blonde.

Really? I like to listen to people go off on tangents because I like listening to others. Plus, it gives my vocal cords a break from my tangents. I usually dominate conversations. Not that I try to. It just happens that way. But I don't find that with you. You and I have a balance. I like that.

Ron, sweetheart, please try to stay indoors, not to strain yourself and drink lots of fluids! You'll only get sicker if you try to do all that while being sick. You'll be of no use to anyone if you're sicker longer. Plus, I don't like it when those close to me don't feel well, so please, be careful and get well soon.

Sorry abput the boredom. I know what its like and I sympathize. Good luck with trying out for that. I have confidence in you and know that you will do great. When will that be happening and what does it entail?

Thank you. I'll try. But worry not about me, my dear. It is you that needs the healing more so than I. You are in my prayers. God bless

-Sarahann

Jan. 22, 2010 – 1:13pm

It's just that I'm usually the one with the random obscure facts about history, and to have someone else bring that kind of thing into the conversation is very refreshing.

Well, most of the German side of my family is actually Prussian. By today's standards, that sort of makes me part Polish in a geographic sense. Shortly before WW1 and Kaiser Wilhelm's unification of the German states, my mother's side of the family left Prussia and ended up in Missouri and eventually Detroit, Michigan.

I am mostly Finnish though, my father's side came straight from Finland, through Detroit, and far into northern Michigan. Around the same time my mother's side of the family left Prussia, my Great Grandfather was a farmhand in Finland. He married the farm owner's daughter and they made their way to America. As you can tell, I've done some genealogical work.

I know what you mean about conversations, I tend to do most of the talking when I get started on a subject I'm really into. I remember one date a few years back where I literally did all of the talking, it's not that I didn't give the opportunity, she just didn't contribute. You and I do have a pretty good exchange and get one another thinking.

Well, I am over my cold almost as quickly as I picked it up; I think it was a combination of your prayers, lots of hydration (2 to 4 liters of water a day), and continued rigorous physical training.

I have taken steps to reduce the boredom, it's just difficult to go from 12 months of 12 hour shifts 6 or 7 days a week to having weekends off and getting out of work by 4pm. I have been brushing up on my German through Rosetta Stone, I've been physically training myself up for the assessment & selection portion of getting into that unit, reading up on the history of Afghanistan, and just learning more general soldiering skills to work towards my next promotion.

As far as the whole process involving that special forces unit, I probably wouldn't actually move to Virginia till sometime next year. I'm looking at their assessment & selection class in August / September. After that, I find out if they want me in their unit and I would move out to Virginia, possibly to Langley. It's a difficult selection course that lasts about 20 days. It involves them trying to break you mentally and physically. There are a number of ruck marches where you have a 50 pound pack on your back while navigating long distances over tough terrain.

Hopefully you've made a speedy recovery as well, I'm sure you need your health for your work every bit as much as I do.

-- Ron

Jan. 23, 2010 – 9:53am

Ron-

Well, then, I'll be sure to throw some facts in when appropriate. ;)

Wow. You really have done your research, haven't you? I haven't done any such research on my family tree. Maybe I should. Could prove to be interesting.

I hate that when the person you go on a date with doesn't talk. Though, I have to admit that I'm quiet for the first meeting of someone. I think its because I have to feel them out, get to know their pressure points and ther sweet spots. You know? But after that I go to being myself. lol. I only do it that way because I've been told that upon first meeting me I'm intimidating. Which is a laugh because those same people who said that to me later told me (later meaning a year or so after) that I was the sweetest person they know. LOL! So funny. Goodness. I love my friends.......ANYWAYS.

I'm so glad you are no longer sick. I was worried about you being sick and having to work. Thats just horrible.

Thats good that you are filling those boring times with such things. I've always wanted to learn German (among other languages....). School and work unfortunately don't give me enough time to be bored. Boredom is a luxery. lol.

Virginia? Wow. Thats....thats on the other side of the country. That'll be fun though. You'll continue to be in my prayers. I hope you get that which you want.

I'm better. Its allergies that are killing me now. If its not one thing its another. Anyways.....I hope you continue to be well, Ron. I hope to talk to you soon.

- Sarahann

Jan. 25, 2010 – 12:23pm

Genealogy is always an interesting hobby to pick up, you really never know what you're going to find out. I recently found out that my great uncle landed at Utah beach on D-Day in World War 2, and was awarded a silver star for his actions. Not even a decade later, his nephew, my uncle, earned a silver star for his actions as an infantryman during the Korean War. The funny thing is, they're both named Walfred.

There's definitely nothing wrong with trying to understand someone before jumping headlong into a conversation. That's really how you figure out what to talk about. I, too, have been told that I can be intimidating; it's odd because I'm not exactly the tallest guy in the world. I suppose I have a wide vocabulary and a slightly deeper voice... maybe that's it.

I appreciate your concern, I tend to have a pretty good immune system though. I've never been hospitalized for anything, and I'm usually just prone to sinus infections. I've found that running tends to be a good way to flush almost anything out of your system. Of course, that doesn't work with the flu, but I haven't had the flu in years.

I really do believe in self-improvement; we were meant to reach our full potential with the life we're given. I see my body as a borrowed vessel for my soul; I am charged with the duty of maintaining myself, improving my mind, and attempting to find a way to leave the world a better place. That's what drives me to try out for this special forces unit. I feel that someone has to do it, and if I'm qualified, it may as well be me. It's hard to ask someone to follow me into this life though, part of me doesn't want to put some woman through that.

I am trying to push myself to learn more languages and become multi-lingual; having first-hand knowledge of the languages I'll have to deal with in my line of work cut out a lot of middle-men. It's also another good skill to have.

Well, hopefully your allergies calm down; I used to get hay fever all the time in the spring back in Michigan, but I think I grew out of that allergy.

I hope you're starting to feel better,

-- Ron

Jan. 26, 2010 – 6:14am

Wow. Very interesting. I may just have to look into genealogy....hm...

Exactly. Thats exactly why I do it that way. I believe in being true to oneself, but at the same time not everyone is ready for Sarahann Full Throttle. Good to know about your wide vocabulary and deep voice. Then again, your vast vocabulary is of no surprise to me. Your deep voice on the other hand......

I too have never been hospitalized outside of minor surgeries. I never got sick. I mean, I've never had the chickenpox (theres a story that goes with that....but its rather boring). Migraines on the other hand are hereditary. Had those since I was seven. Anyways, I never got sick. Then I went to TSOTA and was sick for what seemed like every other month. It was awful. Suppose all those years caught up with me. Its good that you found something that works for you in those situations. I need to find one that isn't curling up on the couch watching old black and white/disney films while drinking ginger ale.

Beautifully put. I too believe that. But you made it sound so much...purer than I could.

Ron, if she truly loves you then she will want to endure that with you. She will want to be there by your side to be you comforter. To hold your hand in your time of need. To kiss away the sweat and tears. To be that inkling of light at the end of the day when darkness consumes the sun. Her arms will be those that you find sancruary in. If she loves you she will follow you no matter how narrow the path.

...thats how I feel about it.

Yes, I understand. I too want to learn many languages for almost the same reasons. My occupation will call for knowing some different languages. I mainly want to learn ASL. I have found that children with special needs respond better to sign.

Sweetheart, worry not about me. My allergies have calmed for the moment.

Hope you continue to be well, Ron. I'll talk to you soon.

-Sarahann

Jan. 27, 2010 – 3:49pm

I'm sure it's no revelation, but I am a very opinionated person; if I were to come out with guns a'blazin at the beginning of a conversation, it probably wouldn't end well. I do throttle it down a little as well, I guess that's where the half-way decent social skills part of my profile comes in.

As far as my voice goes, I'm not saying that I'm Barry White, but I do have a voice that's deeper than average. I suppose that comes from being born with Scandinavian vocal chords and growing up in an area with a thick Scandinavian accent. I've really noticed it after moving out of my home town and hearing that most men in my generation or one behind mine have slightly higher voices.

I had a similar issue in Basic training; just constantly sick and in a state of recovery. Interacting with so many different people exposes you to a plethora of bugs that your body hasn't developed immunities to yet; in your case it was at your school. I think my body has developed a ridiculous amount of immunities after Basic training and then traveling to the Middle East for a year. What doesn't kill you makes you stronger, eh?

I can honestly say that would be a nice change in pace. It's been a long time since I've had that kind of support, so I've become a fairly thick-skinned individual; out there fighting the good fight alone, hah.

I am slow to trust people because of my experiences with them, there are a lot of shallow, short-sighted people that will walk all over you to meet their own ends if you let them. I don't tend to let too many people get real close to me because of that; there are only a select few that I get a good feeling about and give them my trust and faith. That has given me a slightly stoic nature that leads to the innately unnerving or intimidating side of me.

I will say that I view my role in that absolutely committed relationship similarly. I think my job is to be an anchor for my spouse; someone that can be counted on to support and defend her in any situation. I've made sure that I have a stable career with plenty of opportunity so I can provide a home and my job has provided me with the skills to protect my family in that home better than the average citizen. The only issue is, that same job takes me away from that family from time to time, and that makes it difficult.

Sign language is an interesting language; it's so completely different from other linguistics. I haven't had a reason to learn it, I think that's the only reason I haven't dug into it deeper.

I have you say, you're definitely on the top of my list on here.

Jan. 27, 2010 – 11:10pm

You? An opinionated person? Never would have guessed. (hehe) I like opinionated people. Mainly, I think, because I am one. I speak my mind and heart.

Hm...I suppose I never really paid attention enough to listen to the generation's vocals. Though I do like a deep voice on a guy. I find it attractive. Among other things...Scandinavian, huh? Interesting....this may be a stupid question, but, do you have an accent?

I would like to believe that I'm stronger from that which has failed at killing me. I mean, I'm still here. =)

Seems like you and I are looking for the same things from a partner. Only difference: You've experienced that sort of support, I've given it. This is what I mention in my profile about giving too much of myself. It must be a character flaw.

See, where you are slow to trust people I am all too quick to trust them. I don't know why though...I always get hurt. Always. I suppose I just like to see the light in people and believe that they are good. Then again...this is slightly contradictory but......er.......I have a fear of people. I know that makes no sense but that's just how it is......I would like to pose another question, where do I stand in/around that trust bubble?

Sweetheart, an anchor can be lifted from the water and still be an anchor.

....so, I'm going to be girlie for a moment (just a heads up).....*BLUSH* I have to admit, you are the only reason I come one here anymore. I talk to only you on here. In other words, you are the list.....kind of embarrassing on my end but there you have it.

With that I'm going to share something with you but first I'm going to warn you. In case you haven't noticed I tend to speak my mind. I have no shame in my feelings or emotions. I feel guilty otherwise. Anyways, to what I want to share. I am attracted to you. I find your personality very attractive. I know this is probably too early in the game to say (type) such things and not quite the right place to say (type) them but there you go. You may do with that as you like. I only pray that this does not ruin that which we already have.....er.....anyways. I had an urge to tell you. Sorry.

I hope you are well my dear.

-Sarahann

Jan. 30, 2010 – 12:31pm

I'll start off by saying that you haven't ruined anything. I can tell you that if I didn't find you incredibly attractive on many levels, I wouldn't have started talking to you.

Over time, you have only reinforced that attraction. To quote you, "Sweetheart, an anchor can be lifted from the water and still be an anchor."; the simple fact that you were able to take a concern that I've had since I enlisted over two years ago and make me see it in a positive light is incredible.

I do find you sitting inside my bubble of trust, for a number of reasons. I have had real conversations with you from the first message. I don't get the feeling that you're veiling anything and you're proud of who you are; that tells me that you haven't sold your soul for anything fleeting. In short, you're a good person right down to your core, and those are few and far between these days.

I suppose the next step, if I may be so bold, is to ask if you'd like to have lunch, dinner, or do something else together in the near future. I leave that decision up to you; it's not a time sensitive one and there's no pressure.

Seeing as I went backwards with this message, but responded to the more important portion first, I'll continue with the rest.

I used to have a pretty thick upper mid-western accent; you know, the "Eh?"s and the "You betcha"'s. I've since lost much of that accent, but it still comes out now and again. I still say "Yah" a great deal instead of "Yeah" or "Yes", and I'm sure there's plenty more that I don't notice. I think it comes out more when I really get into a subject.

I think my distrust of people stems from my belief in original sin. I truly believe that man is a flawed creation, we cannot attain perfection. For this reason, I know to hold my cards close before I jump in and trust someone. I have put my trust in the wrong people in the past though, so it doesn't always work. I know that I may not always be able to overcome that predisposition to sin, but at least I'm trying and not giving into blind hedonism. There's a great song by Thrice called All the World is Mad, it sort of speaks to that affect.

After looking at your music tastes, I think you might like Thrice. They actually speak to morality and virtue in their lyrics while producing incredible music.

Anyways, I hope you're enjoying your weekend,

-- Ron

Jan. 30, 2010 – 1:06pm

I am more than relieved to know that you feel that way. I too found you attractive from message number one. I was almost afraid to tell you. But now that I know where we both stand I'm excited to see where we will go from here.

I'm so happy to find myself in your trust bubble!!

Before I answer your question, I have to tell you that I (again) was super girlie....and read the top half at least four times before starting my response. My heart hit a speedbump I think. haha....anyways. Ron, you may be bold. I would love nothing more than to have lunch, dinner, or do something else together in the near future. You tell me when you're free and I can work my schedule around it.

I'm excited to hear this. Your voice, that is. I love accents of any kind. I've been told that I go into a southern accent from time to time. But, then again, I go into many different accents. I think it has to do with the fact that I'm in theatre. Oh, well.

Ron, I'm glad you let me see the hand you were dealt. I know what you mean, though, about putting your trust in the wrong people. I have done that more than I would like to admit. *sigh*

I am, at this moment, listening to All The World Is Mad. I truly like it. I feel like I've some of their music before though. Hm...

My dear, you have made my weekend. It doesn't get better than this. I too hope that you have a wonderful weekend. I hope to talk to you soon.

-Sarahann

Jan. 31, 2010 – 5:42pm

I really do appreciate your honesty; it's much better than having to read into layers of innuendo. I think that significantly contributes to my having an innate level of trust with you.

I have a pretty structured work schedule, so I think that makes planning this stuff simple. I am usually completely done with work on the weekdays by 5pm, so I guess anytime after 6:30pm during a weekday would work. This upcoming weekend is pretty open, I don't think I have anything planned. I do have about an hour and a half available for lunch from 11:30am to 1pm; if that's an option you want to try, that could work. The only thing with lunch during the weekdays is that you'll have to deal with me in uniform. Like I said, my schedule is pretty structured, I'm sure yours is a little more hectic with work and school.

I really haven't spent a ton of time in this area, so my knowledge of the better places to dine or other things to do is pretty limited. I arrived here at Ft. Lewis only a few months before deploying to Iraq and now I've only been back about a month. I think a lunch or dinner is usually the best, since it's generally quiet and it's easier to carry on a conversation. I'll talk to some of the guys at work, but if you have anything in mind, let me know.

That must have taken some time to develop the ability to drift in and out of different accents and characters. I'm sure you learned much of that from your time at TSOTA.

Honestly, when it comes to trusting people, the only people I've felt that I could absolutely trust are those that I've served with. There are those in my unit that I wouldn't think twice about giving my life for. It's a hard thing to explain to anyone outside the military or even those that haven't deployed.

I will tell you that this is my first foray back into dating in a while. I got out of a relationship over a year ago while I was in Iraq. It relates to the earlier point about trust, she turned out to be a very good liar; it took me almost two years to figure that out is all. That's just in the interest of full disclosure, and has absolutely no bearing on you.

Thrice has been around for about 10 years now, and most of the band is my age. They've really evolved over the years from a punk sound to something completely different. I never tire of their music.

I have had a good weekend, and it was fairly productive. I did take two physical recovery days off this weekend too though. We're planning on running up some rather large hill this Friday, and since we average 10 - 15 miles a week, I didn't want to risk any overuse injuries.

Just let me know when you're available, I don't really have any other commitments this week outside of work.

-- Ron

Jan. 31, 2010 – 6:07pm

Ok....um....I'm free tomorrow night....but that's really short notice....er....I usually play bells on Wednesdays, but I would be willing to take this week's off. Unfortunately that's the only day this week I have open as far as evenings go. As for the weekend, the only day I have off is Sunday. I was going to see a show......unless........you would like to go see a show with me on Sunday? Or, dinner on Sunday. Let me know. The all work for me. I'm flexible.

As for a place....hm....well, depends on what you like. What is your favorite food? You tell me what you like and I'll see if I know of a good place. I'm pretty much up for anything. lol.

Yes, I believe being at TSOTA was the cause of me growing into my personality, among other things.

I'm so sorry my dear. That's absolutely horrible. It pains me to know that happened to you. I am happy that I get to be the one to share this reemerging with you. It has been a while since I last dated as well. It'll be a fun experience. =)

My dear, don't push yourself too hard. Have a wonderful evening.

-Sarahann

Jan. 31, 2010 – 6:48pm

I'm not sure exactly what they're going to have in store for us Monday, so I don't want to risk something coming up and having to re-schedule. Wednesday's good if you're really okay with not playing bells this week; I don't want to mess up your schedule if it can be avoided. My Sunday is free, so if you want, we can have dinner, see a movie, or both. I haven't really seen any movies at the theaters this past month, so I'm open to whatever.

I suppose Italian food is usually good. I tend to order dishes that involve chicken and some pasta 9 times out of 10, and that seems to be the staple diet for Italians. I'm really not picky though, the Army will do that to you.

Don't worry about me, it sucked but it was me that ultimately ended the relationship. I'm just glad I figured it out before I got married is all.

It definitely will be a fun experience, I've hung out with the same guys for at least 2 years now. We've been together since after Basic training and all through Iraq. You will be a nice change of pace, let me tell you.

Fortunately, my body has become resistant to injury after lots of physical training. I will be careful though, I can't really afford to be sidelined at this point.

-- Ron

Jan. 31, 2010 – 6:58pm

I'm fine with missing Bells if you want to get together sooner. But, if you'd rather spend more time together then Sunday would be the best bet. Either is fine.

Italian.....hm.....well, there's the Hub in Tacoma. That's where I go to get my Italian fix.

Good to know. That would have been horrid to find out after the wedding.

I'm glad you too are excited. Though, as I admitted in an earlier message, I may be slightly quiet our first meeting.

Talk to you soon my dear.

-Sarahann

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Jan. 31, 2010 – 7:23pm

P.S. - This is The Hub:

http://maps.google.com/maps/place?q=-&fb=1&cid=4754291208521241181

Let me know.

Feb. 1, 2010 – 8:41am

I think having a little more time and a more relaxed schedule would be the better approach. Sunday sounds good to me, I never have anything come up on that day.

I've been down to that area, so I'm somewhat familiar with that part of Tacoma. Doyle's is sort of the default hang-out spot for the guys in my section, so it's right on the same corner.

Don't worry about being a little quiet, it's quite alright. I'm not the type that talks just to hear my own voice.

-- Ron

Feb. 1, 2010 – 4:33pm

Awesome. Sunday it is. That works out best.

Exactly. Same spot (abouts). I've never been to Doyle's (obviously) but I know of it.

lol! I bet. Looking forward to it. I may over power the conversation. The world may never know.....well.....you will when we meet.

So....my friends just found out about our meeting and wanted to know who you were....I showed them your profile and pictures. One of them wants to know if you have any friends. lol. Just thought you should know. ;)

- Sarahann

P.S. - just in case (it may seem forward but...) here's my number. 253.273.3148

Feb. 1, 2010 – 5:45pm

Question:
How do you feel about seeing a theatrical performance on Sunday? Being I work at the theatre I get comp tickets. Let me know.

Feb. 1, 2010 – 9:24pm

Hah, I do have plenty of friends in my section, yes. We have quite the personalities in the group, but they're all good guys. It ranges from a former rugby player from Virginia, to a former graphic designer from California. The Army really is representative of the American melting pot.

I haven't been to a theatrical performance in a long time, so that sounds like it would be fun. Just let me know if there's any special dress code for it; I'm sure it's fairly casual, I just want to be sure.

In the interest of reciprocation, my number is 517-937-6148. My phone sucks since I'm one of the few that doesn't believe in spending a ridiculous sum of money on a cell phone, but it works. I don't usually have my phone on me during the workday either, it's one of the downsides to working in a secure facility.

-- Ron

Feb. 2, 2010 – 5:08am

HA! Ok. I'll tell her. She'll be so very excited. haha......(sorry by the way for that. She wasn't very happy with me after I wrote and sent it. *sigh*)

Are you sure? We can go see a movie if you would rather. Or we don't have to see anything. We could just find a place and talk/hang out. I'm not stuck on any one thing. (Dress code: Nothing too special. I very well may be in a dress due to the fact that I have church right before. But for you, just wear something comfortable.)

Alrighty. Don't worry about it. With my phone I can call people and that's about it. I don't text. I have my phone on me all day but rarely do I use it. I don't really see the need to.

Where would you like our initial meeting to be? I picked the restaurant so you get to choose the meeting spot.

I hope you have a wonderful day, my dear. Talk to you soon.

-Sarahann

Feb. 2, 2010 – 6:16pm

That's quite alright, as they say, "Fortune favors the bold". I suppose having someone ask the questions for you does make it a little easier.

The theater sounds fun, I really haven't been to a real live show in a long time. As far as what I'll wear, the forecast claims rain, and I don't doubt that in this state, so I'll be somewhat dress casual with my Under Armour jacket. That thing's pretty water resistant, so it's a must in this part of the country.

Yeah, I'm really not to big on talking on the phone. I don't know what it is, it's just not for me.

The place that immediately comes to mind when I started thinking of a place to meet was the Tacoma Mall. It seems like a good central location to meet up, let me know what you think.

It's been a busy workday, but the sun was out. I hope you were able to enjoy that as much as I did.

-- Ron

Feb. 2, 2010 – 6:24pm

I suppose. Then again, I am on the fence of bold and far too bold. It's a funny thing. But, it is who I am.

Ok. I'm reserving seats as I type. It should be good. I have yet to see it so it'll be new for both of us. I've only heard good things about it. Sounds good and what you're wearing. I'll try not to look too nice. ;)

Good to know you're not much a phone person. I won't surprise call you. lol.

The mall sounds great. Public. Easy to find. All around good place.

I was excited to see the sun. It's been a while. And I'm glad you had what sounds like an ok day. Have a wonderful evening, my dear. I'll talk to you soon.

- Sarahann

Feb. 2, 2010 – 6:25pm

OH! Also, would you prefer front row or farther back?

Feb. 3, 2010 – 4:55pm

Front row seats sound good, I'm sure it's not like a movie theater where you're breaking your neck by sitting up there. I'm sure you'll look nicer than me in any case. I'll be sure not to wear my dress uniform, with all the shiny medals and such, hah.

It's not that I hate phone calls or anything, I just prefer conversations in person; you can better read a person during the conversation and direct it one way or another.

I actually had to wear my shades from Iraq yesterday it was so bright. Such is the pain from having larger than average pupils.

-- Ron

Feb. 3, 2010 – 8:45pm

...if you want to wear a uniform.......that's alright with me.....I wouldn't care........I doubt I'll look nicer. I'll bring an extra change just in case if need be. If the seats are too close, then we can always (depending on if there are people in those seats) sit in back.

I completely agree. That's why I never really liked texts. You lose the personal touch. Then again, one gets that from email/messaging as well. But, one can say so much more in an email than in a text, I suppose. I'm too much a people person. I need to talk in person. It's bad because I don't like talking on the phone and that's really all my job is; talking on/answering the phone. It's a sad state of affairs.

It was really bright yesterday. I think, though, that it just seemed super bright due to the fact that it's been nothing but cloudy skies and rain for the past few weeks. The sun was a nice change of pace. Then the rain today. For a brief half hour it was sunny and I thought of you. Cheesy and cliche, I know, but I hoped you got a chance to enjoy the break in the clouds.

Ron, my dear, I hope you are well. Don't work yourself too hard.

- Sarahann

P.S. - What time would you like to meet at the mall? The show starts at 2pm.

Feb. 5, 2010 – 2:25pm

Don't worry, I was kidding about the uniform thing. After 12 months of wearing nothing but the uniform, having some options in civilian clothing is a great thing.

The one thing that writing an actual message that's thought out, is context and nuance. You lose some of the emotion behind the text, but you can get a better sense of where they're coming from. Talking on the phone really never feels quite right, you don't know if they're fully involved in the conversation or off multi-tasking doing something else. At least when you're face to face, you know what they're doing and have all the context you need. That's every bit as difficult at work as well.

That is very kind of you to think of me while the weather broke for a moment. I have been thinking about Sunday throughout the week when I wasn't actively engaged in a tasking; all good things, I assure you.

I will admit, I am a bit of a workaholic; I enjoy my job. I will sit down and accomplish a task even if it makes my eyes bleed; I think I came close to that on occasion in Iraq.

Anyways, how does 1pm sound for meeting at the mall? That should give us time to catch up and then head out to the show.

Just as a heads up, if I show up with a couple of welts on me, it's just because I'm playing paintball tomorrow with some guys in my section.

-- Ron

Feb. 6, 2010 – 12:35pm

I figured. But I wasn't joking when I said it was alright. There's nothing like a man in uniform...*blush*...anyways.....I understand. I can only imagine what that would be like.

That's exactly it. You took the words right out of my mouth. I prefer face to face encounters because of the human connection. With the technology convergence we lose personal relationship(s) with those around us because we are so focused on the newest gadget. Being an actor I thrive off of the emotions and connection with those I encounter. With a phone call I know not what the person on the other end is really feeling or if, like you said, they are even fully engaged in the conversation. I suppose you're correct with email, though. From an email, one gets a fairly accurate display of what the other person is feeling. But nothing beats old fashion/back-in-the-day talking face to face. That's just my two cents.

*blush* I'm actually kind of embarrassed I told you that now. Damn my need to be honest with you! *sigh* I'm glad, though, that I'm not the only one who has been thinking about Sunday. But, because of that, this has been one of the s-l-o-w-e-s-t--w-e-e-k-s--e-v-e-r-! (Also one of the busiest.) I would like to point out that I am also glad to hear that it is all good things you think of.

That's a good quality to have though. You are a very dedicated person and that speaks mounds about you. I just don't want you to work yourself to hard. I guess that makes me a schoolaholic (..is that even a word?). Why else would I put myself through 8+ years of more school? lol.

One o'clock sounds just fine to me. We'll have to figure out driving situations and whatnot. But, all in all, I'm not too worried. I have our tickets and life is good.

You picked a wonderful day to go paintballing. I'm almost jealous. In fact I think I am. It's such a beautiful day out. I hope you have a wonderful time today. I'll talk to you soon my dear.

-Sarahann

Feb. 7, 2010 – 7:28am

I just thought of some last minute details that I forgot to bring up. I figure we can meet at the east entrance to the Mall itself. That's the side with the most parking, so we shouldn't have an issue finding parking in the same general area.

The other thing I noticed, is that I am not wearing glasses in any of the pictures I have on here; it's an odd coincidence since I do wear glasses most of the time. They tend to have the Clark Kent effect on most people, so knowing that feature is key.

Unfortunately, I was not able to go paintballing yesterday, it's a shame. I found out that I have to teach about a 3 hour class on Monday, so I've been prepping all weekend.

Anyways, I will see you in a few hours.

-- Ron

Feb. 7, 2010 – 8:43am

Not quite sure which side is the 'east entrance' but I'm sure I'll figure it out. I figured we'd do the whole hide-and-seek thing. But this works too.

I'm not going to lie, glasses on a man are one of the most attractive things ever. And to know that you wear glasses..........yeah. I'll leave it at that.

I'm sorry you didn't get to go paintballing. I was so excited for you. Oh, well. That's cool though that you are teaching a class. I hope you got a chance to get outside and enjoy the sun for a bit.

I'm ecstatic. I'll see you in a bit.

- Sarahann

Feb. 8, 2010 – 4:20pm

Ron-

Thank you so very much for last night. I had a wonderful time with you. I learned so much about you and the army and hope to learn more soon. You opened my eyes to things I had never thought about. And I thank you for that. I enjoyed your company and I truly meant what I said about seeing you again. I stand by the feelings I had upon writing you a while ago. Though it may have been hard to tell (...with all the blushing?....probably not.) but I still find you incredibly attractive and being with you in person only supported those feelings. I can continue to be shameless and tell you other such things (like how I wanted to kiss you, even just on the cheek but was unsure how you would take it, so I didn't) but I believe I would only be embarrassing myself. What can I say? I'm just a hopeless romantic. I can't help it. Anyways...

I hope you are enjoying the sun a bit. I also hope you have/had a wonderful day today! I'll talk to you soon my dear.

- Sarahann

P.S.- I hope you don't mind but I added you on facebook. If you do mind I understand. Just don't add me. Talk to you soon. =)

Feb. 8, 2010 – 8:26pm

I had a great time as well. I hadn't been out like that in a while, and it was a nice change. You have to be the most open and honest person I've ever met, and that's very refreshing. The fact that I was able to bring up philosophy and politics and not absolutely offend you right off the bat was pretty good too. You also opened me up to a new experience, always a good thing.

I suppose I did notice, but you didn't blush too bad. I am a little old fashioned, and that means that put the ball in your court; you can set the pace with no pressure from me.

It was a good and productive day for me; I found out I'm finally going to the promotion board in March. That means I'll be getting my dress uniform completely setup and studying random general military knowledge to answer a battery of questions from a crusty old Sergeant Major.

On a side note, I'd be more than happy to have dinner or something again. Just let me know when you're available.

-- Ron

Feb. 9, 2010 – 5:53am

I am more than happy you feel that way. For most people my honesty scares them off. To be frank, at no point that night did you offend me. It takes a lot to do so. Plus, you and I share much the same beliefs. I also learned a lot from you.

I'm pretty sure I blushed plenty. I don't think I've ever been that girlie before. Slightly embarrassing for me, amusement for you (and my friends). I too am old fashion, hence why I didn't kiss you. It's nice to meet someone who is also old fashioned. As you say, it's refreshing!

That's so exciting, my dear! I'm so happy for you. I'll be praying for you, Ron. Also, I feel very rude for not asking, how did your class go?

I would love nothing more than to have dinner or do something else with you again. This week and next week I'm fairly empty as far as a schedule is concerned. My afternoon/evenings are open except for Friday the 12th and Saturday the 13th. I'll be back Sunday afternoon. And Monday is a day off for me. I believe I have work next Friday......Otherwise I'm free. My schedule is fairly flexible. I think the big question is when are you available?

I hope you have a wonderful day, Ron.

- Sarahann

Feb. 9, 2010 – 6:04pm

Again, as I said that night, people who aren't comfortable with themselves are going to be scared off by an honest person. They immediately see it as a threat and feel like you'll expose them for who they really are.

I have a philosophy on leadership that I picked up from one of my heroes, Audie Murphy. He stated simply, "You lead from the front." I try to apply that to everything in my life, and that means not dragging someone down the path you're traveling, but inspiring them by example. In the context of dating, I don't want someone around because I coerced them into it through some sly verbiage, I want someone who wants to be there. I don't want to go through life alone, but if that's what it comes to, I can do it. Being old fashioned lets them come to that conclusion on their own time. A long tangent, I know, but it sort of provides the reasoning behind my old-fashioned nature.

I did not perceive it as rude at all, but the class went well. We ended up just doing a dry run on it since everyone couldn't be there to start. So we have a few more days to prepare, and give the class with much more spit and polish.

I actually have a four day weekend this week, gotta love the Army and federal holidays. I should be available Thursday night, or if you want, we can always do something on Sunday or Monday; I have Monday off as part of the 4 day.

-- Ron

Feb. 9, 2010 – 10:26pm

Exactly. I believe honesty to be a necessity. But, I think I may be a bit too honest. Blunt even.

Sweetheart, as I've told you before, I love listening to you go off on a tangent. You bring up wonderful points. And you become more and more attractive. It's all good........I want to be there. Honesty or stupidity? I leave that up to you to decide.

Oh, good. That's wonderful. So you get a second run at it then? That's very exciting indeed.

Well, my dear, would you like to see me before I head off or when I get back? Do you want a valentine or no? (lol.) ;) It all works for me. And it doesn't need to be anything big. Something simple would be good. I like simplicity. Let me know.

Sweet dreams and all that jazz. I hope you have an amazing day tomorrow my dear. I'll talk to you soon.

- Sarahann

Feb. 10, 2010 – 8:37pm

I definitely side with honesty on that one, don't worry. I just try to be upfront with my intentions is all.

I suppose we could go see a movie or just grab dinner again. I really don't know what's out since I haven't been to the movies in a little while, but I'm sure something half-way decent is out. I think Sunday would work best, I won't have to worry about work interfering at all.

That class has me doing all kinds of research, not that I mind though. I have the problem of looking something up for a specific part of the lesson, and getting dragged in by some sub-article. Right now, I'm refreshing myself on the electromagnetic spectrum. That's what I work with in my job, and there's a whole lot to dig into with it.

Anyways, I hope you have good day and take care,

-- Ron

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